Most Virtual Assistants will tell you that working for yourself is wonderful and will bring you unbelievable satisfaction and freedom. But what they often won’t tell you is that it’s also often confusing, scary, frustrating and stressful. Existing VAs will hopefully read this article, laugh and nod their heads with recognition – and new ones will get an insight into what’s coming!
The truth about working for yourself
1) You’ll sometimes fall out of love with it
When this first happens you’ll panic, think “oh God, I’ve made a terrible mistake, my life is over, I’m going to have to get a job, I’m such a failure, I’m going to throw myself off a bridge”.
But don’t worry or throw yourself from a height because the feeling will go away again.
The truth is that, at some point all freelancers fall out of love with what they do. It turns out it’s completely natural and usually means that you just need a holiday. I discovered that freelancing has a kind of shape to it and sometimes you’ll feel a bit meh about what you do.
It passes in a couple of weeks and you’re back to normal. It will happen again, and when it does just remind yourself that it happened before and everything was fine.
2) You’ll hear a billion comments about working in your pyjamas all day
You’ll hear this tired old line again and again until you want to punch someone in the face. I usually perpetrate the myth by saying I work from my bed whilst eating chocolate Hobnobs and drinking gin all day whilst trying not to smirk thinking of the hours I don’t spend commuting with my face rammed into a stranger’s armpit, or stuck in traffic not working all the hours God sends being taken for granted and being ordered around by an unappreciative moron.
3) The ‘Feast and Famine’ cycle may not apply to you
Sometimes you’ll have months when you don’t earn much and other months when you do. December is often quiet as your clients might be winding down for Christmas, and August can also be slow as everyone is on holiday.
Although these months can be slow, try not to follow the herd and think it’s the way it has to be for you too. I work on a big event in August so am busy as hell and, because one of my main clients is a (very good) Marketer, she gives me a lot of research work in December so she can get her own business ahead for the coming year.
4) Some days you won’t be arsed
Unlike falling out of love with freelancing, occasionally you’ll wake up and decide you’d rather be in the park, on the beach, in the cinema, shopping, in the pub or watching trash TV on the sofa. Unless there’s anything pressing, then just go ahead. Don’t make a habit of it, work harder another day, don’t beat yourself up and appreciate that you have the choice.
5) It’s scary at first
Until you get a grasp on what you’re doing and get into a routine, it’s going to be a bit scary. You’ll worry that you won’t have enough clients, that you won’t be good enough, that you’ll fail and look like an idiot, that you’ll starve in the workhouse and a billion other things. It’s completely normal and you’ll get used to it.
6) It takes a while before you realise you can do what the hell you want
When you first start out, you’ll probably work the same kind of hours you did at your old job, you’ll take orders from clients like you did from your boss and you’ll feel bad if you’re not making the most of every minute.
This is because you’ve been institutionalised for years.
Remember you went freelancing so you could work the hours you wanted and from a location of your choice. You’re now the boss and you’re in control of who you work with, what tasks you take on and how you work.
It might take a while before it sinks in that you’re now the boss, but the day it does is the BEST DAY EVER.
7) It won’t be like you planned
Before I went freelance, I had this amazing idea that I’d rise early, go for a jog along the seafront, have a healthy breakfast, work all day on interesting tasks dealing with charming clients who knew what they wanted and were willing to pay me well to help them, then finish work at a reasonable time.
Your day may go like this, but the chances are it will look entirely different.
8) You will get sucked into cat videos on the Internet
The Internet is a wonderful thing – you type things into a box and it tells you stuff. It’s also home to a lot of utter nonsense, more funny cat videos that you could ever imagine and it will be calling your name every single day. You’ll try not to spend whole mornings browsing shopping sites and faffing around on Facebook… and some days you will succeed.
9) Clients can be dicks
Don’t get me wrong, some clients are amazing. I now have fantastic clients who appreciate what I do, pay me well and on time, are easy to communicate with and have very realistic expectations (i.e. they don’t expect the moon on a stick for £8 an hour). But I’ve also dealt with some right numpties.
There are clients who want everything immediately, some who have no idea what they want to use you for, some who won’t pay you on time, rude ones, cheap ones, stupid ones, insensitive ones… and then there’s just the plain old dick heads.
Using my method to choose your own clients definitely reduces the chance of getting a nightmare client because you get to qualify them but, because there are a lot of nightmare people on the planet, statistically you’re going to get one as a client. It’s just a fact of life.
10) It’s still amazing
Despite freelancing being all the above and more, it’s still brilliant and you’d be missing out on living your best life if you didn’t at least try it.
Like most things, freelancing has its good and bad points and you’ll need to navigate the waters and feel your way – just like you did with every other new thing you’ve experienced throughout your life.
So research and prepare as much as you can, decide that life’s too short not to follow your dreams, take a big brave deep breath and jump right in.
The water’s fine.